tiredstepmomofteen123's picture

rough day

I guess statistics say that 2nd marriages have a higher divorce rate than first marriages. As a woman married to a man with a son from a previous marriage I know why that is true.
Nevertheless, my husband is such a difficult man that even if this were his first marriage we'd probably be having problems.

happy mom's picture

In-Laws...could it be fake support?

I know for a fact that my mother in law, sister in law are still in good relationship w/biomom behind my back. Why then do they still act like they support me when I complain about this woman? But behind the scene they talk to this woman and maintain a good relationship w/her? I thought that once divorce is final no more contact w/ex families period? I feel so stupid for telling them what we have gone through w/this woman knowing now that they are friends w/her.

happy mom's picture

Stepson...whimpy,cries over everything!

Can someone enlighten me please.... SS cries over everything he is 10. Ex. if I tell to stop teasing his sister, he'll cry to himself, if we tell him no to something he'll do the same cry. Is this because he is spending too much time w/his mother and his mother baby's him? Or it doesn't have anything to do w/who guides him most? Has anyone been through this? Not to sound mean but I a bit bothered by his reactions especially because he is a boy.

sweetthing's picture

Just frusterated!

This isn't really ex or step kid related, more of a husband rant.

Recently DH took a different job in his company. He was unhappy doing what he was doing so he took another postion. He didn't get a raise, but is now hourly not salary and because of his hours switching kids have to go to Ycare after school. This costs us more money & makes me have to skip taking lunch/breaks so I can leave at 3pm or so to drive 45 minuets to pick them up again this week, because they have him off site & for lATER HOURS.

jlmtik164's picture

Hi Caitlin

Just checking on you. How are you doing? Hope you are taking care of yourself. How is the situation with SD? Keep us updated. Have a great day.

uhm's picture

The Problem

So, I have two children from a previous marriage and one child from the current relationship I'm in. My BF has a daughter who is 11. When she is around, I'm a total b****. I get frustrated and get anxiety attacks for no reason. She isn't a bad kid - BUT she shows off. It's mainly "look at what i got" or "did you know..." I really can't stand it. It might sound shallow, but her appearance also frustrates me. She's overweight, wearing a size 12 women's when she was 9. I'm overweight wearing a size 10 after 3 children and I'm only 5 feet tall. The BF and I had a child who is now 6 months and I still do not want to spend time with his daughter. I won't marry my BF because I have issues about what will happen to my income should we marry. His ex is remarried and has another child with her husband. She is currently pregnant again. She doesn't work, but puts her children in daycare. She puts my BFs daughter in a private school which he pays for. She puts my BFs daughter in sports camps which cost about $300/week and expects him to pay for half. Mind you, my BF and I rent. The Ex and her new hubby own two homes, just purchased a new SUV, own a Benz, and take trips - Disneyland (two times this year), Hawaii (once this year), and the Philippines (last month)....you get the picture....I don't want my income going to another child who has whatever she wants. I have two children from a previous marriage whom I support - no child support from their father who is in rehab after being arrested 3 times last year. What's the problem with me? I can't seem to accept her and that's the ONLY reason why we fight....it's always because of her. He wants to bring her to our house, which is fine with me. But I told him that he has that choice, just like I have the choice to leave should she stay with us on the weekends. So, he has been seeing her on the weekends at his parents' house which is an hour away (SD lives in same city as BFs parents).

Shar's picture

I think BM is contesting divorce to hang on to hubby

Court gave her everything and she is coming back for more....because she wont get off her butt and get educated and work. She doesnt want her husband, but she doesn't want anyone else to have him nor does she ever want him to have money or a life......oh and of course if the divorce goes through, she will have no benefits...only kids will.

Steamed's picture

Light at the end of the tunnel? ( I just hope it's not a train !)

The representative from the college was at our house last night. This is a school that SS says he has wanted to go to since he was 12. The rep asked a lot of questions, we asked a lot of questions, and SS says he wants to do it, the rep qualified him on the spot and we paid the initial $100 to get him registered.Classes start end of April, and he can live with his uncle since his house is about 30 minutes from the school. The school will help him find a part time job while he is going to classes, will help him find a job in the industry when he graduates and will help him find work whenever he is unemployed for the rest of his life !

Nymh's picture

Stupid Me

So I told you that BM contacted me with ligitimate discussion topics and I spoke to her. Well, during that conversation she asked if I would be OK making my Myspace public again, and she would do the same, so as to hopefully alleviate some of the trust issues between us and hopefully the reduced tension would trickle down and ultimately make things easier on SS. I gave thought to the idea, made all of my blogs private so that she couldn't read them, and made my Myspace public.

Gwen's picture

Need good wishes

you can wish on me and I can dig up from whatever reserves I have. We have asked to change the parenting plan to increase our time with the kids; the settlement says that "all parties recognize that it is in the best interests of the kids to spend more time with their dad and that time with dad should increase in the future", basically as his circumstances become more stable.